Happy Valentine’s Day! Or not. I have such an issue with Valentine’s Day, because it has been twisted into a thing that is exclusive to people in love and therefore leans towards the exclusion of those who are currently alone. It’s hurtful to many. I know, because I have been alone.
I remember being in high school, and it seemed absolutely everyone but me had tons of Valentines from friends and admirers. Ugh. I never had one. Not one. It was hurtful.
Actually, I would come home, and my mom would have tons of gifts and goodies spread out for me all over the table…so for years, she was my valentine.
Actually, in South America…my sister in law informs me that Valentine’s Day is to show love for friends…older ladies who are alone, girlfriends, etc. She actually has a party every year to show love for her friends, with this in mind. She is a fabulous party giver, and this year’s gathering was smaller than usual, but it was a blast being able to sit around and discuss girly things with her friends. Her party is always Valentine themed, with pink everywhere, gifts for attendees…etc. This year’s gift was a a flashy candle. Just a token of friendship.
So with that, I want to wish everyone who is alone, recently alone, alone for a damn long time…whatever the state of aloneness might be….Happy Valentine’s Day. You are loved.
You are loved by Father God. You are loved by someone that possibly you have not met yet. OR you were loved by someone who has left this earth. Everyone has their story. I choose to focus on being kind and especially sensitive to those who are alone at this time. It’s so hard because it appears as if everyone else’s life is perfect and full, except for yours.
Sometimes people are married, or in long term situations, but they are still alone emotionally. All that glitters isn’t gold, and alone can be many things.
So if you are alone, I am thinking of you. If everyone could think of two people they know who are not currently in a relationship, and reach out and surprise them with a small, thoughtful token, it would mean so much. That’s what I try to do every year, as my mom did for me when I was younger. Valentine’s Day should not be a yearly day of sadness for some, so especially if you are Valentineless….adjust your focus onto who you could treat special this week.
…love one another! (…and yes, I know that aloneness and Valentineless are not real words)
