-SDS
These days, I listen to a lot of talk radio. I heard something a few months ago that stuck with me from Dave Ramsey. You can not spend yourself into wealth. Basically, you can buy all the $1,500 shoes that you want, but it won’t make you actually wealthy. If anything, it makes you actually less wealthy.
This brilliant statement came to use when a friend of mine was whining about her entire check going to pay for rims for her new car. Those of us having dinner with her, were older, wiser, and repulsed when she told us her check was $800 but the whole thing was going for the fancy wheels.
I especially ripped in to her in stating that was ridiculous and trashy to spend $800 on rims when they were living literally paycheck to paycheck and unable to get ahead. Then she informs us that the $800 was only a payment on the rims and that the actual total cost was $2,100. At that point I congratulated her on officially being ignorant white trash. ( Of course, you must understand that she’s not white, she’s hispanic, I was only being funny and making a point at the same time. Sorry, but if you’re going to be my friend, I’m going to be real when you open the door and ask my opinion.)
This is the point at which I realized that decision making skills were impaired in her household, and recommended she and her husband go to Financial Peace University and get a clue. I also shared the sentiment about not being able to spend yourself into wealth.
SIDEBAR: I started writing this blog, early Sunday morning, made breakfast, then went to church…at which point our pastor announced that Dave Ramsey was coming to do some financial classes at our church! Funny! Apparently financial stress is responsible for 50% of all divorces.
And with that, I bring you my Biotch On a Budget blog post.
I have plans. Life plans. Generally, life plans require funding. While I do splurge on a handbag or whatnot here and there, I have reached the point where I think it’s fun to mix in less expensive bargain pieces with a nice bag or great shoe. I feel that, generally speaking, accessories are everything, and saving on garments and certain accessories can help lesson the financial blow of being fabulous.
Anna Nicole smith once said, “…it’s expensive being me,” as she say in court justifying her lifestyle as she fought for her share of her dead husband’s estate. Sad story, but I identified with her statement! It is expensive to present yourself to the world every day!
David Yurman ring, Tiffany & Co gold bracelet, Michael Kors bag, Kenneth Cole boots, Michael Kors watch, everything else…CHEAP!
I do not have a rich, dead husband…so there is no alternative except to spend wisely. While I do get a lot of products and items for free through my blog…I also do end up buying a lot. I’ve made a game of “being me for less.” I prefer to know I can afford to travel here and there, rather than wearing my vacation money on my body!
Two weeks ago, I was checking out some pink aviator glasses by Rayban. They were fabulous, and the friend that was with me kept telling me to buy them. They were $170. While I have splurged on glasses before, I don’t need expensive glasses all the time.
I told her that I was on a budget, and that I could find comperable glasses for less. The glorious thing about getting older, is that you do actually get smarter and you care less about impressing people you don’t even know. I decided that I was fabulous enough without $170 pink Raybans, and found something similar for $6.
When she challenged my fashion authority, I set out to build a blog around my lovely new $6 sunnies! I set out to find a cheap dress as well, and dress it up to disguise the fact that I only paid $17 for it!
This black shift style, high neck dress appears to be fashion forward. The arm holes are cut in a conservative fashion, in a way that conceals armpit folds, and looks to be futuristic. (Very few people have attractive armpit areas. Just sayin.)
It is the perfect medium weight fabric, so it can be worn any season and this type of cut looks good on any body type. It’s loose fitting and comfortable.
I paired it with a faux fur, short waisted, bell sleeved jacket, which I constantly get compliments on and which also cost very little….$14. Most of the people that approach me this season, when I wear this, think it’s very expensive but it’s only because I pair it with expensive items, such as this pink Michael Kors Hamilton bag.
The pink aviators are fun, and I am sporting the new MAC lip color, Miley Cyrus. I am a fan of MAC because they have not gone to crazy with their pricing. I do not feel that I need $52 lip stick. I just don’t.
…and this was my Bitch On a Budget blog post. This outfit saved me hundreds of dollars just by shopping smarter. Sometimes, the fit of an outfit is so exceptional that you may feel it’s worth the extra money, and that’s great! By saving on some things it helps you to have more disposable on other things.
The old Sex and The City series repulses me for many reasons, but one of which, is how often the main character would spend on expensive dresses and shoes, but then be worried about her bills all night long as she was out on the town. She kept spending to keep up her appearance as she searched for Prince Charming to come along and bail her out. What if Prince Charming never comes? Or worse…he shows up with a mound of debt just like yours? And child support to pay for another 10 years? Then what? So be fabulous, but get on a budget and allow yourself a certain amount for beauty and clothing every month.
Wow! This post got serious. I’m talking to you like I do to my friends now. If your wallet is super fat, then ignore me, but if you are like 85% of most Americans, you have debt and you are living paycheck to paycheck. One of those 85% text me the other day…asking how she could make extra income…yet I see her out eating and drinking on Facebook two days later. You know I called her out, right?
Blogging is fun, especially outfit posts, but I don’t want to make people feel as if they must go out and spend all the time, so I will try to continue to be more transparent on the financial aspect of each post!
CASUAL CAT
cat top by Rainbow, trench and necklace Cache, bag Juicy Couture, watch by Movado
Let’s chat about my day. It is actually a “day off.” However, I never really take much of a day off, instead there are usually a few hours within a day off that we claim as our own.
The morning starts of with Pastor John Hagee, who was on fire today on the television. We watch him every morning when possible to jump start our day. Actually, it was a fabulous sermon, which touched on all the issues of today’s concerns.
After being emotionally jump started by our tv minister, he headed to his appointment, I got ready and went to mine, before meeting for lunch near Old Town Spring.
While waiting for him…I finally got to go inside a little cupcake place there named Cake Swirl. I did this because I have taken it upon myself to run my own personal cupcake quality control division of the universe.
I bought two, a red velvet and a chocolate peanut butter which both still sit in the box, waiting for my approval after dinner tonight!
We went on to a casual lunch, with turned into a non casual, business discussion. I guess we look like “bar people” because this is the second time they have seated us in the bar area of this particular restaurant. It was disturbing seeing a group of people in their 60’s getting hammered and loud in the middle of the day, and it became hard to hear each other, as we debated the finer points of SEO, real estate and tennis.
On a brighter note, I am enjoying being budget-aware this season, reusing things from last year, and mixing with a few new and fun things to change up the old!
shoes by Carlos Santana seen here
The Carlos Santana shoes are from last season (scandal!) but they didn’t get too much play last year, so they are still a great suede look for this season.
The Juicy bag was actually free,since I’d purchased a couple of bottles of the Viva La Juicy Noirperfume. I finally got to use it today, and in my mind anyway, it sort of replaces the hot pink Michael Kors Hamilton that I refrained from purchasing a few months ago. One of the bottles of perfume is actually being given away to one lucky follower, on October 31, 2013, in case you are interested! See details here!
I actually have some eye shadow palettes I also plan on using for Giveaways in the future, as well as other things, so join in the fun and Follow from one of the methods on the About page.
-SDS
-October 1, 2013
1. MERRY CHRISTMAS MAKEUP
Since I work in cosmetics, I like to photograph makeup colors and techniques, but it’s an art! It’s not the same thing as a “selfie” in that you are photographing the colors of the nails, lippies, or shadows.
2. RICH GIRL NECKLACE
I decided to work on my up close shots, and loved how this blingy rich girl necklace photo came out, complete with glitter nails and studded collar! Nails are another thing that’s really hard to photograph well with out plenty of practice!
3. KS TENNIS USA
Since I am the “S” in KSTENNISUSA.COM (or so I am told) I help out with various media work. My husband loves teaching tennis and takes it very seriously, so I had fun trying to capture his persona and work ethic in some new shots I took for the new website launch! He helps me with so much and is a true friend, so it’s always great when I can help him to grow his passion!
4. AVENTUS
There are some men’s fragrances that I absolutely adore, and when I took a photo of Aventus by House of Creed, I loved the way it turned out, although it was just a camera phone shot! The crazy silver and black glitter nails looked appropriate with the packaging, and the article on my Top 5 Men’s Fragrances can be seen here!
5. BLACK WINTER SUNDAY
One of the very few fashion posts I did in December was Black Winter Sunday. Any time my husband snaps a photo in which he actually focuses, is a rare and pleasant thing. :0 It’s worth mentioning that this is a real outfit, that I really wore, when I really had some place to go. I will say, that hats are more for ease to me than for glamour. The girl in front of me in church, who had hair extensions crash and burn because it was so humid, wet and cold…probably wished she was cool enough for a hat. Just sayin.
6. MAKEUP ARTIST
I think of makeup artistry is an art form. A lot of us have made the product searches and trials a bit of a hobby, as well as a career. Photographing makeup is harder than it looks! I mainly use my Instagram account for fragrance, cosmetics, decor tidbits and such. It’s so much faster to post a fun lip color pic here and there on Instagram. You know what though? I think it’s creepy when the last 8 photos on a person’s Instagram account, are all of their own face, so I do try to keep my own makeup shots to a minimum. Plus, I’m old and I have a sleepy eye when I’m tired. Unless you are a Krisspy or Amrezy level of a makeup artist…it’s probably best to filter in something other than your own face. Just sayin.
Creamy Garlic Chicken Soup With Kale
This soup is by far the best thing I’ve ever created in the kitchen! It’s been a terribly cold winter, and nothing sounded great to eat except for some type of fabulous, hot soup.
Being a major fan of garlic, I decided it would surely be hard to mess up a creamy, garlic chicken soup with new potatoes. Too lazy to search for a recipe, I decided to wing it on my own! What ended up happening, was the birth of the absolute best soup recipe I’ve ever accidentally created!
Personally, I like hearty soups with at least a wee bit of meat, or I’ll just be hungry again in two hours without protein, so I opted to chock it full of chicken breast pieces. There’s also the Woolly Mammoth to keep feeding, so I prefer to make a huge and hearty amount of whatever I cook, so that it will last more than one meal, and I won’t find myself in the kitchen quite as often this way.
Here Is What You’ll Need:
1 Cup Minced Garlic
2 cans Cream of Mushroom Soup
2 cans Cream of Chicken Soup
2 cans Chicken broth
4 Cups Chopped Kale
1/2 Cup Green onions
1 Cup Chopped Celery
8-12 New Potatoes…sliced
3 pounds Chicken breast
1 tablespoon Salt
2 tablespoons black Pepper
2 Cups Water
All You Do Is:
Dump you Cup of Garlic in a heating pan, then place chicken breasts on top, and cook over medium heat until done, adding light salt and pepper to the chicken.
In a soup pot, you will put in all cans of soup and water, over medium heat, adding in new potato wedges first.
When your chicken in done in the skillet, cut up all chicken breasts before adding into soup pot, and use the remaining chicken garlic juice, to add to the soup mixture. Simmer, adding salt and pepper to taste… for one hour. Add cut green onions to top and BAMM! You rock a sexy Creamy Garlic Chicken Soup With Kale!
-SDS
-January 25, 2013