TOP 12 SHOTS OF 2018

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  1.  BIRDWATCHER

Birds are my jam!  My husband loves bird watching as well so it’s a joy we share.  I absolutely love how this bird flew into our blog post set up and gracefully walked across my frame. Nature is everything. Click to see more!

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2.  DOGLOVER

We adopted a new furry soul this past year! His name is Benji and he is wonderful! There is not a sweeter little guy.  His jaw was shattered so his tongue hangs out, but Blanca loves him tremendously! Little Bella accepts him but he’s so hyper it freaks her out at times but truly she barely accepts any of us!

I started putting him on the float with the girls as a team building exercise in friendship.  We also have the occasional swim sessions so we can make sure they all know how to get out at the stairs.  Benji, BenBen, Benny, Benjamen Buttons…we call him everything! He is such a special little blessing in our lives!

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3.  NATURELOVER

This is me attempting to teach Blanca to observe nature and not interfere and bark at it. Don’t let the blond hair fool you… she is an Alpha female so she wants to chase and dominate everyone and everything.

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4.  ISLAND LOVER

If we had millions and didn’t work…we would have a small place in Maui to live part of the year.  My soul belongs there.  When it became evident that planning the perfect Italian vacation was a better idea for next year, we decided on Maui again at the last minute. This photo was taken at Mama’s Fish House just before a romantic seaside dinner!

This dress had come in at Johnny Was The Woodlands and I decided she would be perfect for Maui.  Of course there was that moment when a woman in a black t-shirt and white jeans walked by and said, “…not every woman could pull that look off…”  to which my husband and I laughed at her dis, and went on with our day!  Last I checked it was an island and I was on vacation.  Bitter unhappy people kill me sometimes. The #RESORT2018 post was my favorite this past year!

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5.  HAWAII LOVER

Visiting Maui again was a dream come true.  I love Hana and have always wanted to go back.  Some of the photos are here at Eight Shots for September.

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6.  RAINBOW CHASER

Anyone who thinks they know my husband, would be shocked to know that he adores rainbows and must pull over and take photos whenever her sees one! We had sort of a photo competition when trying to photograph this one on the way back from Hana on Maui! I think this is the best rainbow I’ve ever seen. God is good!

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7.  LASH BOSS

I did not take this photo, one of our customers of Bosscat Beauty did ! She had on #bosscatdays lashes and I absolutely love it!  It’s better than any I’ve taken.  If you love makeup you may want to follow this MUA @justineebella on Instagram!

8.  INSTAGRAMMER

Check out either one of my Instagram accounts if you’d like to see more photos! @bosscatbeauty or @stephaniedawnsjoberg

9.  ECLECTICISM

I do what I want .  I wear what I want. I am who I want to be.  With fashion and styling…I have fun. Eclecticism is a natural state for me. Vince Camuto booties, with a silk kimono from #johnnywasthewoodlands , a Texas girl belt, Prada bag, leather cuffs, Quay sunglasses and probably no bra….that’s me. I have no box.  Perfectly perfect is not my thing because that’s too hard. Perfectly fun makes more sense. It’s easier. Bold is good. The other day, I ran into a friend while getting something loaded into my trunk at Academy.  She had on a sweat shirt, I had on velvet and heels…we looked at each other and laughed.  I really am this person. I like that my friends and my husband let me be me.

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10.  BIRTHDAY GIRL

I turned 50 years old on December 28th!  In the rule book of life, it says you are supposed to throw a party for anyone turning 50, so I did! It was so much fun!  Even my dad came and remarked that it was the best party he had ever been to!  I realized that it is so cool to have a house full of people who actually like you and you like them.  In life, we deal all day with those we must tolerate.  I have not posted a blog yet or shared photos, but I will!

For a couple of years, I kept to myself a lot and did not make time for people.  I realized that most people didn’t know why.

One day, I was sitting in a parked car at the bank, and another car ran into me. When you are in a car that is locked up in park, the impact is not cushioned. It actually snaps twice. It lunges forward, yet snaps back harshly and your seat beat does not work.  I had a headache for a solid 6 week period immediately following the impact and then it was downhill from there.  I didn’t have the youngest, fittest neck to begin with since I was about 47 already when it happened. I had whiplash so bad that just getting to work and functioning was my primary priority.

I finally realized that I needed to really verbalize to people what I was dealing with, because I was told that my isolationist behavior was hurtful to others.  I explained in detail the seriousness of my injury and I immediately felt so much relief. Friends appreciated knowing why I was not interested in doing a lot of extracurricular activities. Although some people at work knew, it’s not the kind of thing that you call up your corporate office and discuss.  Actually, some people might…but that’s not me.  The people I worked with knew I was suffering but I didn’t really make it super clear to a lot of people why I was MIA at certain events. Lack of sleep and neck pain was zapping my extra energy but after all of that suffering, I am starting to see light!

My party was a gift to friends, an opportunity for my husband to meet people that I’ve known for years and it was me re-inviting people into my life. As for my blog…. I never really explained the issue to any depth because I saw a blogger do that month after month and it became draining on me hearing about her lack of sleep over her health issue.  It sucked the joy out of the blog.  I didn’t want to be that.  Blogs are supposed to be fun and uplifting damn it!  People and love are the meaning are life so I want to work on that aspect of my life this year and be more present! My little party was the beginning of a new chapter and I am so happy with my little circle of friends!

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11.  MUA

I got to brush up on my MUA skills to snap shots of my cousin for Bosscat Beauty lashes!  I love how she turned out! Beauty isn’t about just looks, but it’s about the person.

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12.  HOMEBODY

I was home a lot in my spare time this past year!  I had different projects going on and I enjoy being a loner.  My dogs are my heart and I suppose it’s possible that I spend too much time with them because I catch myself having conversations with them these days!

I had a skin cancer issue (thanks probably to the good old days when I hit the tanning bed after each trip to the gym)… so these days I try to cover up somewhat.  Tan on young skin is hot, on older skin it just looks like leather,  just sayin.

This cover up was from #johnnywasthewoodlands and I actually ended up buying two!  I wear it as a swim cover or a top! The design is timeless and it’s flattering – what else is there?

I truly look forward to 2019…to blogging, working, growing, loving and spending time with people of good heart. 

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NEW YEAR, NEW #girlboss OFFICE SPACE

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We are just a week shy of being in the new house for a full year. Initially, I had a goal of being 90% complete with the remodel within 3 months. As the contractors were working, I was planning the space, deciding on electrical fixtures, marble, bathroom fixtures, which furniture to keep, what to chunk and what to buy immediately. With all that was going on, I had decided that my personal office could wait until I was prepared to deal with more work!
I really needed a refresh though, because I sometimes need a quiet place to think an operate my empire. (Totally joking, but your life is your empire and mine needed focus and reorganization!)
My empire consists of my fashion management job, my new cosmetics start up, <em>Bosscat Beauty, my little blog that you’re reading, and KS Tennis USA…a local tennis business that my husband runs.
My goal was to get my office cleaned out, reorganized and decorated before year’s end so I could start 2018 with better focus! This is my reveal!
I had decided to stick with the charcoal gray paint, since that’s the base color that runs through the entire house. The house is not huge so I didn’t want to break it up with a lot of different colors.
Although I tried to go with antique desks, dealing with independent dealers was a hassle that I didn’t have time for, so I opted for the white Sasha desk from Z’Gallerie. I thought it would go well with the Jaipur Furniture reclaimed wood and steel shelving unit I purchased. I feel in love with it the minute I saw it. I did not realize though, how incredibly heavy it was. It literally sat in the hallway for a week until I found some men to help me bring it into the room. I can never move away now, because it’s literally heavier than anything else I own and it would be too much work. The unit goes beautifully with the distressed look of the laminate flooring in the office.
My thought was that the white, modern french pink black white office, girlboss office, home office, Bosscat Beauty, pink, world market curtains, World MArket chair, pnk chair, Sasha Desk, ZGallerie desk, chandelierstyle of the Sasha Desk would add a bright pop to the room.
Although I plan to try and add a small futon so that I can use a custom brass wall piece to the wall behind it, for now I am done!
I kept my antique vanity as my makeup table, added a vintage wood table that used to belong to my mom as a corner area. I am trying really hard to keep it sparse and have some open space. That is hard for me because I love to layer! I did decide to utilize the shelves for some fun keepsakes, and forced myself to throw out a lot!
The pink train case at the top of the shelves, was actually a creme color a few weeks ago. It is an old train case that had belonged to my mom, and it has some of her things inside. I painted it pink so it could be enjoyed and not hidden. While I was at it, I decided to paint my mannequin pink as well, and quit hiding her in the closet! I don’t know why girls love mannequins but we do! I also kept my mom’s old college yearbook and some of my old child’s books…like Charlotte’s Webb…just as nostalgia. Old things remind you of where you came from. The little white Bible was the second one ever had as a child. I’d originally had a small pink one, but it got left on the patio and it was ruined in the rain….I cried for a week!
This room is my escape pod, so of course it needed a chandelier. Chandelier’s make everything better.
Literally, I have no excuse for not accomplishing everything that I’d like to this year. I’ve created my own little corner to drink coffee and plot my days in. I have a space that has some old things, some new, and it’s just a fun little spot for me to work from home!

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5 Unusual Ways to Earn Extra Money…

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5 Unusual Ways to Earn Extra Money

Do you need some more cash? It doesn’t matter how much care you put in to planning and saving your money, it seems like the kids always need new shoes or an unexpected bill shows up in the mail. Or maybe you feel the desire to splurge here or there on a special treat, such as a designer bag! (Or as in my case, start a cosmetics line!) Either way, almost everyone can use some more cash in his or her pocket. Take a look at these five great money-raising ideas to give your finances a boost.

Sell your plasma!

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If you want to earn some extra dough, consider selling your plasma. The need for new donors is high! While selling plasma won’t make you rich, you can earn up to $200 a month. It’s legal to sell and doing so will make you feel good; plasma is used to make life-saving medicines. Your plasma will regenerate quickly and the donation has no adverse effects. Make sure to eat and drink water within two hours of your donation to help replenish your body’s blood volume and restore your energy. There is a health screening required prior to the donation, and all donors must weight at least 110 pounds and meet the age requirements, which vary by state.

Sell your junk car!

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If you have an old broken down vehicle, it could actually bring you some money. If you’re looking to make cash for junk cars in Los Angeles or New York or anywhere in between, it can become a reality. Find reputable car buyers who will take your old car off you hands and put money in your wallet.

 Take care of dogs!


Dog-owners are always looking for someone to walk or clean up after their dogs. Share your willingness to provide paid dog-walking services; tell your friends, family, and neighbors about your new gig. If you are willing to clean up after dogs, people are always glad to pay someone else to pick up their yards. You can also utilize websites like Thumbtack.com or Rover.com to post an ad explaining your services, or share more about your offerings on the local Craigslist page.
I advised friends in this area years ago and it proved to be a pleasant experience for everyone!  I know that we always leave someone at our home when traveling because we want the dogs to feel safe at home – not in a boarding situation they are not used to! Most people love the fact that their home is being watched as well so it’s really a great side business to build up over time!

Become a translator!

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Are you multilingual? According to the U.S. Department of Labor, translators and interpreters are two of the fastest-growing occupations in the United States. You can make money off of your talents; advertise locally or offer your skills on places like Fiverr, Upwork, Guru, or Gengo.

House-sit

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Baby-sitting is a way to earn some cash, but you can take is a step further. Houses are quiet and won’t argue with you, and they don’t need you to make meals either. There are various websites that offer potential house-sitters the chance to connect with homeowners who are seeking someone to watch their house. If you have the flexibility, house-sitting can give you the opportunity to see different parts of the country. If you need to stay local, advertise your availability to house-sit and willingness to perform maintenance such as watering the flowers or mowing the yard. 

Again, this is something that can grow over time with referrals!

If some unforeseen expenses have come up and you’re short on cash, don’t worry. It is okay if delivering pizzas or waiting tables aren’t your thing – these unusual money-making ideas just may be the key to bringing in that extra cash you need!
Have you ever come up with a different approach to bringing in some extra cash? Share any fun ideas!

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BACK TO VLOGGING !!!

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Back to Vlogging and getting more personal!  I have fun new announcements and you can check out the link above to Bosscat Beauty!  My latest project! Leave a comment or follow on YouTube to see more video posts soon!

-SDS

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AMERICA SCAMMED: WHO GOT YOUR IRS REFUND THIS YEAR?

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     The other night I checked the mail in the rain after I got home.  I flipped through it all quickly once inside the house.  I said hello to the babies and Ken as I noticed that we had an envelope from the IRS addressed to my husband and another woman.  An envelope from the IRS addressed to your husband and another woman is probably never a good thing. I decided he must have filed taxes this year with his secret second wife that he had hidden from me on the other side of town. I suppose I wasn’t supposed to see the mail.  I decided to get some comfy clothes on before dealing with the mail and while he finished getting dinner ready.  I figured I would investigate this secret wife thing after dinner.

     I opened the IRS notice eventually after we ate and discovered that yes…his taxes had been filed as “Married, Filing Jointly” with Maria “Blank.”  I asked him who Maria “Blank” was, and of course he stated that he didn’t know.  We, at this juncture, had yet to file jointly and were planning on this being our first year.

    As it turns out, the IRS had sent us this confirmation letter, because a red flag was issued before the IRS would deposit a tax refund for thousands of dollars into the bank account submitted to them on an electronic return.  My husband has not gotten a tax refund check in years, so that is one of the things that alerted the IRS to proceed with electronic payment cautiously.  They performed a soft credit check, which enables the IRS to gather information such as current address or place of business or work.  Apparently the information submitted did not correspond.

     The next morning, Ken was able to sit on hold with the IRS for two hours and finally get in touch with a live human being.   They were able to verify that he was not married to Maria “Blank” that he did not file the fraudulent return and they were able to put a stop on the pending payment for thousands which was bound for Maria’s bank account or prepaid Visa card. (The really good news was that I wasn’t going to have to file for divorce or murder my husband.)  The representative he spoke with on the phone, also claimed that they would be attempting to arrest and prosecute the individual or individuals responsible for the fraud.  

     The reality of an arrest is actually highly unlikely, as I learned after doing research on the rampant issue of tax refund fraud this year in the US.  It is a problem that is costing tax payers billions of dollars.  I think it is the most ridiculous thing that the IRS has done, to allow immediate refunds through the internet into accounts or even onto prepaid Visa cards.   Most of the articles I’ve read on this type of crime, indicate that users who had previously used the electronic filing methods, such as Turbo Tax, have predominantly been the victims of these crimes.   I’ve done my taxes personally, by hand and submitted through the mail for the past 5 years, after catching huge mistakes on my taxes one year by my CPA ,so I wouldn’t be a likely victim of such fraud.  The IRS suggests that you do your taxes quickly, in order to keep the criminals from being able to use your information for their fraudulent returns because if yours is done first, it would flag and stop any second attempt to collect.  In our case, we were in no rush to file this year, because again, it’s not like we are getting anything back.

     The IRS Tax Return system is flawed at best, because it’s set up for trustworthy people to have ease of access to a speedy return.  The insanity of letting people have their money sent electronically to a debit card, instead of a bank account is absurdity. Ending that program would instantly save millions. To file a tax return electronically, all someone needs is a name, date of birth and an SSN. The IRS accepts tax filings as soon as Jan. 1, but employers aren’t required to submit correct employment information to the agency until March, by which time roughly half of all refunds have been paid out. (For that matter, the IRS doesn’t begin matching employer-submitted data to tax returns until the summer.)

 

      The really crappy part about all of this, fellow Americans…is that this is our money that is being lost.  Some articles and research claims that “gangs outside the country” which to me, is code for “ISIS” -is who is said to be behind the hack attacks that have been responsible for the sensitive data leaks.   The country is losing hundreds of millions of our dollars, and if it’s not through this type of fraud, then it’s through the fresh illegals that were recently issued social security numbers and have been rushing to file taxes and get backs thousands per family for credits and benefits that Joe Average is not entitled to.  We are losing going and coming. Earning, spending, saving… it doesn’t matter.  If you are middle class then you are paying others to come to this country and mindlessly make babies. A family of four can come over, make $18,000 and get back $7000 in the form of a tax refund.  There is absolutely no reason that non citizens should be getting back more than they even paid in.

 The reality is that this country is broke.  Obviously after this record level of tax fraud, we will be even more broke, if that’s possible. Tax Fraud doesn’t mean what it used to. It used to be defined as Harry not admitting to $30,000 in cash earnings or perhaps a small American business getting a bit too liberal with their write offs.  This is different. This is bigger. Do the math, people.  This is critical.

     That’s my tax rant.  I don’t mean to be negative sounding, but I do believe in reality and educating yourself. Do some research and learn about the ways to protect your personal information.  I’ve included some interesting articles on this type of fraud below. If you read these articles you will be shocked, but there are valuable tips on how to avoid getting your information stolen.

 

http://krebsonsecurity.com/2015/02/the-rise-in-state-tax-refundfraud 

http://moneymorning.com/tag/tax-refund-fraud-2015/

 http://www.nytimes.com/2015/02/11/your-money/steps-to-protect-your-tax-data-as-refund-fraud-spreads.html?_r=0 

http://www.nbcnews.com/business/taxes/tax-refund-fraud-soaring-little-irs-can-do-n304951

 

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HIRING 101: TOP PERSONAL TRAITS TO ASSESS WHEN HIRING NEW TALENT

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A friend and I were recently having a funny discussion about the perils of hiring staff when you don’t actually know a lot about hiring.  We began joking about performing an intelligence test as well as a test for technological comprehension and how it’s needed in this day and age, depending on the company’s expectations.

While we all know there are things you can not ask a candidate, I’ve found that some interviewers make the mistake of talking too much, and listening very little. In any typical interview, you could easily listen for cues as to positive character traits as the applicant speaks throughout the interview process.

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For years I was involved in a lot of different types of hiring, but mainly it was retail related hiring. Occasionally, I would travel to new cities and have to do a lot of hiring, firing, restructuring and some super intensive power training for a couple of the retail chains that I worked for.

Before that, I worked in the office of my father’s construction related company during my college years and watched him make hiring mistake after hiring mistake…all were very costly.  That is where I first learned the importance of hiring more on the basis of integrity than for skill set.  The bookkeeper was embezzling, the shop mechanic was being paid by a competitor to sabotage our trucking equipment as part of a hostile takeover attempt by a competitor, one salesman would turn in dinner expense receipts for Sunday brunch with his girlfriend and her child, another salesman was getting paid by us, but selling jobs to our competitor. Basically, we were losing thousands of dollars per month just from internal issues.

People with integrity sometimes fail to realize that everyone does not also possess it. They often make the mistake to assume that everyone is like them.  It is the number one thing I look for in the hiring process, Integrity or lack thereof. My father based his hiring on skill set alone as opposed to worrying with the issue of integrity. Lack of integrity can do you in, and put you under.

My husband and I debate on this issue all the time, as he typically has an innate tendency to believe the best in every person who comes along, wanting to work for his tennis coaching business, or do some sort of partnership.  I am the one who has to run background intel and then beg him to understand that when a person lies, and claims to have a Masters degree or years of in depth experience…this is going to be a bad hiring experience.

I’ve been right 100% of the time.  It’s taken him years to understand that I developed the hiring skill after years and years of experience.  Poor choices can cost you a lot of profits, and even tank your business. It doesn’t matter what type of employee you are seeking, integrity is always a key component.

In training managers on the top things to look for to be able to hire at a winning ratio (with a very small fail rate) I developed a list of the top 5 things to measure during an interview.  I had originally shared theses thoughts in a Hiring and Succession planning class with my company.  I thought I would share these facets of hiring with the universe since it’s a topic that continually gets brought up over the years as friends call with horror stories of bad hires.

In each case, if we retrace the initial interview, we can usually see the red flags that were overlooked.  In most cases, we find that the red flags were there, the hiring manager just didn’t take heed.  The common applicant is not typically skilled enough to hide the fact that they are a train wreck about to happen, so it’s up to the hiring manager to hire smart.

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The funny thing is, as detrimental as hiring the right person can be to a company, I’ve noticed that 24 year olds, with 2 years of work experience have been doing initial interviews for big companies.  A system is usually set in place in which the executive level manager is the last person that gets to see the final applicant pool, after it’s already been weeded down by lesser level employees.  This makes no sense.  Hiring is one of the most important jobs a company has within itself.  Attempting to function well in the workplace without good quality people is hell. So enough with the ridiculous questions that you got out of that hiring manual! Have a real conversation styled interview and get to know the candidate.

 

Here are my 6 top hiring points to consider while interviewing and assessing your next candidate;

 

  1. STABILITY OF PERSONAL LIFE

 

I know that you are constantly told that an employee’s personal life is none of your business, but it is the number one indicator of what you’re inviting into your workplace.  Do you really think that a candidate with a problem riddled, unstable personal life is going to have any workplace stability? Usually not. While you never ask a candidate the specifics of their personal life, they usually spell it out for you throughout the interview.  “I moved here” “then I moved there” “then I moved here,” unless it was specifically to grow for work or school related progress, most conservative people think twice before pulling up stakes and moving from state to state.  I’ve found that those who are grounded, are grounded in every aspect of their lives. Another great question to ask is, “Do you have any pets?”  It seems as if some of the most responsible people, are those who have had a pet for an extended period of time.  A pet is work, and commitment.  It’s a good sign as to a person’s follow through and level of commitment. I absolutely hate it when a candidate finds a way to mention an “ex” during an interview. Ugh. Turn off.  Look for any signs of stability, follow through and commitment. While it is inappropriate to pry, it is appropriate to listen and allow the candidate to feel free to share whatever they feel important. You should be hoping for a candidate with a positive mindset in respect to any mention of their personal life.

2.  INTELLECTUAL CURIOSITY

 

Ask you ask a candidate what they enjoy in their spare time, or about hobbies and interests…look for signs of Intellectual Curiosity.  Do they know or care anything about the world? Politics? New tax code?  Do they know who Dr Ben Carson is?  They don’t have to like him, but just knowing who a person like Ben Carson is, shows signs of life at the intellectual level. Even possessing a desire to know what is going on in the Universe, outside of one’s own bubble, is a good indicator as to the level of intelligence you are dealing with. I have friends who don’t like to read or do not wish to know anything going on in the universe.  They watch stupid cat or dog trick videos on You Tube in their spare time as a hobby. These people can still be great workers, but will be limited in growth potential. A college degree is not an accurate summation of intelligence in many cases.  I know a person with a Psychology degree who is unemployable, dumb as a rock, and a recipient of disability due to his inability to function at a level deemed sane. I’ve had degreed individuals unable to figure their sales commission earned. Possessing no inner desire for knowledge is a key indicator of intelligence. Sorry, but typically you want a person who is self motivated to excel and do well in the workplace. Intellectually interested people generally are also self motivated to excel.  Having interests in something outside of oneself is a key indicator of a person who will want to learn and grow at work, and typically intellectual curiosity is a true indicator of intelligence. Think about it…how smart could you be if you care nothing about the world that you live in and will a person like this be a good investment for your company?

3.  HEALTHY MENTAL STATUS

 

Mental health can never be under appreciated in the work place. People often endure stressful situations at work.  Do you want people that get rattled easily and can’t handle their emotions well in the workplace?   A good way to test for one’s ability to cope with stress, is to ask simple questions during the course of your conversation, such as “How bad was the traffic on your way here? Did it bother you? Have you ever taken a road trip by yourself? Oh, really? Where did you go?” “Do you ever go out to dinner alone?”

As your conversation blossoms and your candidate begins to feel more comfortable with you, you will easily see and hear things like he/she is uncomfortable with driving out of town alone, traffic rattles them, they are comfortable keeping life very simple, in the box.   What you are looking for is a sign that a person may be emotionally fragile. I’m sorry, but if a person gets freaked out by eating dinner out alone occasionally, they will have trouble being outgoing, which may be needed in certain work situations. As an employer, sometimes flexibility is expected of your employees.  Generally, fragile people are not flexible.  Any little kink to their regimen undermines their emotional stability.

It would also prove fruitful to be mindful of the individual’s personal filter or lack thereof.  If a person is not able to remain within professional boundaries, it’s usually a sign of issues.  Too much expressed emotion during a first meet will typically be an indicator of one who has emotions they can’t keep in check. If you are too controlling of the direction that the interview goes, you won’t get a chance to really hear and experience the individual. If they begin to run at the mouth, and can’t quit spilling their guts…good, you get to experience and learn more. This is what an interview is all about.  You need to get a feel for the real, inner person you are interviewing.  Real conversation is a good way to see through the interview persona people often put on.

A self aware and mindful person will shut up and wait for the next question.   It’s best to have a true conversation with a candidate and get the clear picture before the hire, so you can decide if they will be a fit for you. Poor mental health is a bitch in the workplace. It’s also a Protected Class.  Once it’s in, it can be disruptive to all. That’s why it’s very important to insure you are hiring correctly for the job and insuring that the candidate is a fit for the position and will be able to perform the tasks involved. Just sayin.

4.  NATURALLY ORGANIZED

 

A good type of question to ask in an effort to get a true picture as to an individual’s natural organization level, is to simply ask, “Tell me about a typical day for you?”

A great candidate would reply, “ I get up at 6am every day because I make my husband breakfast and we walk the dog together before he goes to work.  Then I have my free hour at my computer desk, where I read the news, check my emails, pay any bills if needed and peek at Pinterest for a few minutes before hitting the shower.  I stop every morning at my corner Starbucks to get my skinny vanilla latte and I make it into work every day at 8:30.  I take a bag lunch Monday thru Thursday, and eat out for a fancy lunch on Fridays!  I’m usually home by 6.  I force myself to hit the gym 4 days a week, unless something important is going on. I’m not going to lie though, I do give myself an hour of trashy reality T.V. before going to bed!”  (I actually know someone who says all of this, except with the addition of every detail of every calorie she takes in for the day as well.)

The point here, is not so much that she goes to the gym.  The point is the ritualism. Ritualism is in effect…organization.  She has to have her morning coffee at her special stop, the dog gets walked with the spouse ritualistically every morning. She allows herself a free hour of relaxing, trashy reality T.V. and this shows she controls time well and has organization as a natural trait.  When people do things in a certain way and time frame, they do so to   insure they have peace of mind in that they accomplished their daily tasks.  Don’t ever bother to ask a person if they are self motivated and organized in an interview, of course they will say yes.  Again, have a conversation and learn who you’re talking to.

5.  INTEGRITY

 

Integrity is the number one thing I look for in candidates.  An employee with a lack of integrity will get you every time.  Integrity, however, is probably the hardest component to measure in a new candidate. This is a conversation my husband and I go round and round over, when discussing whether or not to hire someone for the tennis management business he runs (with my expertise.)  Other than having an at-length, conversation styled interview with people, what else can be done to measure integrity?  Check people out.  About 6 months ago, an individual approached my husband about doing a little partnership together.  I researched the man, and discovered he had lied about having a Master’s Degree.  His entire LinkedIn resume was a twisted fabrication.  He also was caught with other lies and it was apparent that he had a Napoleon complex. He sought to make every word than came from his mouth paint a portrait of overwhelming fabulousness. Obvious issues.  I was done with the possibility of working with him after that. (There’s a whole lot more to the story, but I will omit it here, but basically, it ended poorly.)   My view is that people that lie are dangerous in the workplace.  I know quite a few people who have careers based on complete fabrications.  That’s alarming to me, and I want people with no moral code to be nowhere around me. If people lie about who they are and where they’ve been, then why expect honesty and morality in any other venue?

On the flip side, I’ve hired people with admittedly limited experience, trained them, promoted them and respected them, and was rewarded to see their careers grow, and they also helped me to be successful in my jobs as we worked together.  Integrity is everything. I’ve rarely been disappointed by a person of integrity.

6.  TECHNOLOGICAL APTITUDE

 

Since it is now 2015, I have to add a sixth key indicator for hiring well.  Depending on your type of business, you’ll probably need people who have some measure of technological ability. Ask your candidate which social media accounts they use, or even what type of cell phone they use.  That can be a huge indicator of their tech aptitude. The odds are absolutely zero, that an individual has a flip phone, but  has enough tech savvy to do anything more than check an email account here or there. Do they know what Skype is? Have they used it? Do they pay their bills online?  Depending on the expectations involved with the position you are hiring for, perhaps you want to discuss SEO or social media networking ideas just to get a clear and accurate picture of your candidate’s real level and understanding of today’s technology.  You may think that people can be easily trained, but some people have learning road blocks, so be sure to hire people who will be able to meet your expectations.

I promise that if you begin to follow this hiring formula for any industry, you will see better retention, more in house promotion, and an improved bottom line for your company if your staffing decisions improve. Continuous trainings of new staff can be costly, and let’s face it…it’s embarrassing when your hiring skills are questioned due to a really bad hire here and there! Too many bad hires in the same business at the same time, can take down your empire. I’ve seen it.

It’s worth mentioning that some of these qualities are also helpful when considering future friends and mates!

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